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This is the last episode of New View Advice podcast! This is truly the end of an era for me, and I am so grateful for every single person who has ever listened to this podcast. In this episode I share my gratitude, talk…
In this episode, I dive into a listener’s question about feeling conflicted between being with someone special and embracing a period of independence.We’ll explore indecision, fear of the unknown, and the pressure to…
This episode is all about courage. Recently, I’ve noticed that many loud and performative people are labeled as courageous, and I’ve found myself wondering – is that true courage? And if not, what is true courage? So in…
In this episode, I address the rarely discussed topic of woman-to-woman sexual assault. I respond to a listener who bravely shares her story of being sexually assaulted by a coworker she trusted and saw as a close…
Feeling exhausted, disconnected, or unsure if your job is still right for you? You’re not alone. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about burnout at work—what it really feels like, how to recognize the…
In this episode, I answer the question: "Why do I cry every night ever since that one man broke my heart?" I explore five possible reasons the pain still lingers—grief, the stories we tell ourselves, the impact of toxic…
Grieving the end of a friendship that turned romantic? This week I answer a listener question about the grief and confusion that comes when a close friendship becomes romantic — and then ends. Whether you're…
In this episode, I respond to a listener struggling with limerence and intense infatuation for their best friend—a love that feels impossible and is tangled with self-hate, shame, and depression. We dive into the power…
In this episode, I dive deep into the emotions and challenges that arise when you don’t get along with your partner’s parents—especially when toxic and hurtful behavior is in play. I answer a listener question about a…
In this episode, I open up about the painful journey of healing from sexual violence—especially the heartbreak of not seeing your rapist held accountable. As a fellow survivor, I share how I’ve navigated a world that…
In this episode, I dive into the tough question of when to let go of a relationship, especially when addiction is involved. We explore how even culturally accepted addictions can impact a relationship and cause real…
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about healing after betrayal in a long-term relationship. A year and a half ago, this listener cheated on their girlfriend, and ever since, the relationship has been…
Losing a friendship can be painful and unexpected. In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to heal after the end of a female friendship. I explore why these relationships can be difficult, how to…
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: “How do we begin again after a major life change?” I dive into the emotions and feelings that come with starting over—whether after a breakup, moving to a new place, or…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is navigating heartbreak after the end of relationship where they believed they could change someone, only to realize they could not. We discuss the question –…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who struggles to speak aloud their experience of sexual assault. I think this is a very common experience for survivors of sexual violence, and I give a few reasons…
In this episode, I answer my own question - what do we do when things don’t go according to plan? After a disappointing couple of week’s I found myself needing a reminder about how to pivot when faced with feeling lost…
In this episode, I welcome special guest Kelly Schooner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss what is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and how EMDR can help people on their healing…
In this episode, we discuss the feeling of frustration. Responding to a listener's question about feeling stuck and overwhelmed by frustration, we explore various emotions that often accompany feeling frustrated, such…
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question about how to forgive oneself after cheating in a relationship. This listener is struggling with feelings of loneliness, sadness, and fear, and they feel as though they…
In this episode, I delve into a listener's heartfelt question – what does it mean if I fail at love? This listener is feels like they are getting a second chance at love with an ex, and finds themselves feeling fear…
What do we do when life feels too good to be true? We often expect to embrace happiness when things are good, but the truth is many people struggle and feel triggered when things are going well. Many people ask…
In this episode, I answer a listener’s question: Why am I scared of love? I dive into the reasons so many of us experience a fear of love, including the fear of vulnerability, childhood trauma, low self-worth, and even…
In this episode, I explore how to overcome the fear of rejection. I answer a listener's question about struggling with the fear of rejection in love, specifically feeling frozen when it comes to asking someone out on a…
In this episode, I share about my own mental health struggles in 2024 and why I believe prioritizing mental health is so important. I discuss how I believe society impacts our mental health, and how I felt impacted by…
Where is the holiday season magic? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone feeling sad, depressed, and lonely this holiday season. I explore ways to process and accept these emotions, reconnect with…
In this episode I talk about how to become comfortable with physical touch after sexual assault. Many survivors of sexual trauma struggle with sex and being touched after sexual violence. In this episode I discuss the…
In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they still seek validation from their parents even though they already know their parents are unsupportive and are often left feeling unhappy. I…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who was sexually assaulted by their biological father and is looking for guidance on how to navigate this situation and get support from their family. Navigating…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is debating leaving her husband who has narcissistic traits and has been manipulative and controlling in the past. When she told him that she was leaving the…
In this episode, I dive into the complexities of creativity for trauma survivors. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is a religious cult trauma survivor and wants to be a film writer /…
In this episode, I discuss how we can support ourselves after sexual assault, rape, and sexual trauma. I share advice on how survivors can begin to feel safe in their bodies again, take their power back, and navigate…
In this episode, I dive into regret and how to forgive ourselves when past decisions. I answer a listener question who regrets telling the truth and questions whether it was the right thing to do. I offer…
Why do so many of us feel alone? Why do we feel alone even when we are with other people? Where does this feeling of loneliness come from? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is wondering why they…
Why is it that our head understands that a relationship is over but our heart still struggles to let it go? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener moving through the break up grieving process. I talk about…
In this episode I outline my Self-Love System and the 6 pillars for practicing self-love. By practicing the self-love system, you will learn how to love yourself one step at a time. Through self-love you will remember…
In this episode we talk about self-love. I answer a question from a listener who wants to know how do you love yourself if you can't remember a time when you ever loved yourself. I also talk about why so many struggle…
In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know whether they need to feel guilty for cheating on someone they aren’t technically dating? We will explore the feelings of guilt and learn why…
In honor of New View Advice’s 100th episode, Amanda Durocher gives a behind-the-scenes look into why she started the podcast and what she has learned on her healing journey. Amanda discusses her passion for helping…
In this episode, Amanda Durocher discusses imposter syndrome and why these feelings often have nothing to do with your current job or situation. Imposter syndrome is often a form of self-sabotage and self-doubt and we…
This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed,…
In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone…
What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I…
In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here…
This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain…
Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone…
Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t…
Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating…
Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I…
So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build…
Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by…
Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In…
Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to…
Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to…
Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have…
Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to…
Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year?…
In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is…
In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them…
It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we…
This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma,…
Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener…
Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren’t good for your partner or to be in a…
Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. In this episode, I discuss rejection, what…
Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk about my experiences with grief and three lessons grief has taught me…
How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn to trust ourselves again? In this episode, I answer two questions…
When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious instituitions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experiences that can leave lasting impacts. In this episode, we are going…
Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandemic. In this episode, you are going to learn that healing from a…
Cheater’s guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my intention is to explore why the feelings of guilt and shame arise after…
Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are subtle and committed by people we love. In this episode, my intention is to bring…
Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of betrayal can be intense and people often develop trust issues. But how…
The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally known as “Daddy Issues”, people downplay its impact on mental health…
Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming. The truth is everyone experiences self-doubt at one point or another. In…
Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because there are real feelings of rejection and heartbreak. In this episode, I…
Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in a relationship. In today’s episode, I answer a question from someone…
Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is searching for healing…
Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a patterned response to stress and overwhelm, and often looks like…
Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is deciding whether or not to press charges in regards to their sexual…
Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. In my own life, I have found self-compassion to be crucial when I am feeling sad, lost, upset, and…
Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace anxiety can also have negative impacts on our family and personal…
Is it possible for a relationship to work when both people have cheated on each other? In this episode, I answer two questions from listeners who want to make their relationships work, but are both struggling with…
Everyone has negative thoughts, and sometimes these thoughts can even spiral and create negative thought cycles that we have trouble getting out of. In this episode, I outline my 4 step process (The 4 Cs) to help you…
The wounds created from bullying and being bullied can impact our lives long after the instances of bullying have occurred. In this episode, I discuss the long term effects bullying has had in my own life, specifically…
Oftentimes when we discuss porn addiction, we only discuss it from the view point of the person dealing with porn addiction, but the truth is that porn addiction impacts the people in the relationships with those…
PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) is a common side-effect of experiencing trauma. In this episode I discuss my own journey with PTSD, my post traumatic stress disorder symptoms, and three things that helped me to…
Anger and rage are natural feelings and are important to feel for your healing journey and your mental health. Many people try to numb their triggers, bottle up their rage, and manage their angry feelings inside from a…
This week I have a special guest Andrea Giles, Infidelity Coach and host of the Heal from Infidelity podcast on how to heal from cheating in relationships. Andrea and I discuss what to do when you’re at the beginning of…
Self-care is a popular “buzz word” and is often quoted in lyrics and on social media, but what does it actually mean? You may think it is treating yourself to fun activities and gifts, but in reality that is only one…
Body image issues negatively impact so many people in today’s world. Healing your relationship with your body and learning to love and accept your body often takes time and patience. In today’s episode, I discuss my own…
Setting unrealistic expectations for yourself and others can lead to a repeating cycle of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, I outline my four-step process to help you release the pattern of unrealistic…
The mother wound is the pain caused by your relationship with your mother. This can happen through your relationship or through witnessing how your mother interacts with the world. In this episode, I discuss the mother…
Healing sexual trauma takes time. Many people wish to rush the process, but unfortunately it’s a journey that takes time, patience, and a lot of self-compassion. In this episode, I dive into my own healing journey and…
Many adults today are living with the wounding, trauma, and effects of their parents' divorce. Divorce affects all those involved, not just the two getting divorced. In today's episode, I discuss how divorce affects…
Depression is a common problem for many, including those who have experienced trauma during their lives. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with depression and how the symptoms can manifest differently for…
The holidays are filled with joy, but also can bring up triggers and family dynamics that want to be healed. In this episode, I discuss family dynamics and the different roles we can play in our family structures. I…
In today’s episode, I discuss how difficult family dynamics and triggering relationships are a beautiful opportunity for growth and healing. I answer one question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate…
In this episode, I discuss 10 lessons I learned over the past year on my own healing journey. These lessons and learnings include that new things will always be new and scary, I’m grateful to be sober, I am enough…
In this episode, I answer a question from someone wondering, “why am I ok with being the other woman?” And I offer advice to someone who recently found out that they were “the other woman” and is debating whether or not…
Everyone experiences feelings of sadness throughout their life. In this episode, I answer a question from someone feeling sad that they are almost 30, and another question from someone who is sad that they are…
Grief is one of the best teachers for the human experience. We learn so much from grieving the death of loved ones, but it’s not an easy journey. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with grief, and answer two…
Feelings of resentment in romantic relationships can leave us feeling hopeless and bitter. In this episode, I explore the causes of resentment and how to let go of resentment. This post contains affiliate links to some…
Healthy communication creates safety, trust, and intimacy in relationships. Unfortunately, many of us did not learn how to communicate in healthy ways when we were younger, and can end up playing out unhealthy…
In this episode, I answer questions from listeners who are questioning whether they should get back together with their ex after a break up. The first question is from a listener whose long-term relationship ended…
Many people who cheat on their partners find it hard to move on and forgive themselves. They can often live with regrets for years. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an…
This episode focuses on questions about how to heal from cheating on your partner, specifically when alcohol was involved. Over the past few months I have received many questions from listeners who cheated on their…
This episode is a follow up to Ep 29: How to Heal from Being Cheated On in Relationships This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying…
Healing from being cheated on in a relationship takes time, patience, and a lot of self-love. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying…
Often times we don’t give ourselves the time we need to fully move through past relationships, so the patterns and beliefs from old relationships can end up affecting our present day lives. In this episode, I discuss…
Unfortunately in today’s world, having an unhealthy relationship with our body can be all too common. I, for one, have felt like I am at war with my body for many years. Today I talk openly about my own struggles with…
Cheating can be traumatic for all people involved. Not only does it involve heartbreak, but it involves an extra layer of betrayal that can take time to heal. In this episode, I discuss the cheating wound, and I answer…
The holidays are a great time for healing. Oftentimes our families can trigger childhood wounds, and by bringing awareness to these triggers we can begin to heal our family patterns. This post may contain affiliate…
The effects of bullying can manifest in our lives in all different ways. In this episode, I dive into the details of how I recently healed layers of my bully wound by looking at the effects of “mean girls” from my high…
With a world filled with social media, many of us find ourselves comparing our lives to others more than ever before. The result of this is comparison syndrome. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite…
Sobriety has been such a gift I’ve given myself, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying…
In this episode, I discuss why I believe life isn’t fair and how when we can let go of the lie that life was ever supposed to be fair, we can empower ourselves to move forward and heal. This post contains affiliate…
When healing from the death of loved ones, the feeling of guilt can often arise. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.…
Bullying can be very traumatic and have long-term effects in our lives. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Full terms…
This episode is in response to a TikTok Amanda created that went viral about what she’s learned during her first 6 months of being sober. In this episode, you will learn about: Why I decided to go sober for 12 months…
Trust is essential to the healing journey and connecting to yourself. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and resources. I earn from qualifying purchases. Full terms & conditions here .…
Friendship breakups are really common, but often are filled with shame and can be left unhealed. Though these breakups are painful, friendships can be one of our greatest teachers and it’s important to take the time to…
On average, people spend 30% of their lives working. Because of this, it is so important to find a career that is fulfilling and can bring you happiness. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools…
Many of us use unhealthy coping strategies as a way to avoid feeling our feelings. In today’s episode, Amanda answers questions about three different unhealthy coping strategies – using alcohol, food, and shopping to…
Anxiety can make it difficult to live in the present moment. In this episode, Amanda talks about why so many people suffer from constant anxiety, how to start looking at your fears and anxiety, how to start grounding…
Sexual assault and rape is all too common, and leaves survivors feeling lost and confused. In this episode, Amanda discusses why it was not your fault, how to move past self-blame, how to forgive yourself, and the…
Heartbreak is inevitable. Everyone experiences heartbreak at one time or another, and it’s important that we allow ourselves to move through the feelings and to go through the stages of grief. In this episode, you will…
Relationships can be challenging, and also very rewarding. In this episode, Amanda offers advice on how to become more conscious in your relationship. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools and…
Amanda goes back to basics for this episode, and discuss what self-love, how to get in touch with your inner child, and why forgiveness is so important. This post contains affiliate links to some of my favorite tools…
Suicide and suicidal thoughts are all too common in today’s society. In this episode, Amanda answers questions about how to heal from the death of loved ones who have died by suicide and how to handle suicidal thoughts…
Grief can be one of life’s greatest teachers, but if we don’t deal with our grief it can start to wreak havoc in our lives, which is why Amanda is so passionate about discussing grief and the grieving process. In this…
No one expected to live through a pandemic. We have spent a lot of time discussing our physical health, but in this episode, Amanda dives into how the pandemic has impacted our mental health. This post contains…
In this first episode of New View Advice, Amanda introduces herself and the podcast. You’ll learn why Amanda started New View Advice and how it’s different from other advice columns, her goals for the podcast, topics…
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